Answer: You mention that your partner is frustrated when you don't orgasm through oral sex...are YOU frustrated? If not, tell her so. If you're pleased, why doesn't she believe you? Ejaculation isn't a requirement for pleasure. If you would like to ejaculate more easily and rapidly (whether through intercourse or oral sex) I suggest you contact a certified sex therapist. Consult AASECT (American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists) at 1-319-895-8407 for the name of a therapist in your area. In the meantime, focus on pleasure--not measure.

Intimacy Q & A: Orgasm Issues