Answer: It sounds as
though your husband may have a condition called "phimosis"
--the diagnosis for an unusually tight foreskin. In some
cases, the foreskin actually cracks and bleeds when retracted.
This condition results in pain whenever the penis becomes
erect. Assuming this is the case (and only an M.D. can confirm
this with certainty), circumcision may be suggested. But
don't jump the gun. Get the problem evaluated and then you'll
know what your options are. In the meantime, be sensitive
to his feelings and don't personalize his lack of sexual
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