Answer: Oral sex for men or fellatio, is exciting in different ways for different men. Some men love looking at their lovers during oral sex, others prefer tight, wet, direct stimulation to the head of their penis combined with a steady rhythm of their lover's hands. Some enjoy more of a "deep throat approach." Communication with your husband is important so that you can discover what turns him on. I am not aware of any cream that would help you with your gag reflex. If there were such a cream, it would probably "anesthetize" or numb your throat and my concern would be that it would then be transferred to his penis and possibly interfere with his sensation and pleasure. You might try to suppress your natural "gag reflex" is by relaxing and breathing through your nose. Remember that the most important part of lovemaking isn't "performance" it's intimacy, so relax and enjoy!

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