Answer: If you've been married for 25 years and prefer masturbation to partner sex, that suggests there's something going on (or not going on) in your relationship. Have you discussed this with your husband? Communication is the first step to reestablishing intimacy. Sexual desire naturally ebbs and flows. When did things change? Hormonal fluctuations and changes in general health also effect sexual desire. I understand the reluctance to talk to a doctor about "private" matters, but I encourage you to do so. You won't be the first person who's talked to him/her about sexual issues and you'll be glad that you did. You might also consider viewing one of orgasm-related videos from the Sinclair Intimacy Institute, such as Becoming Orgasmic.

Intimacy Q & A: Communication Issues