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What can we do to get our old sex life back?
Question: I am a 31-year-old male and my fiancé is 22. We have been together for three plus years and are getting married this December. Everything is perfect in every way, except ONE big item. "Our sex life" or I guess it would be better-termed, "lack of sex life". The first six to eight months was awesome in every way. We both experienced each other fully and enjoyed it thoroughly! My sex drive began to taper off substantially, and after several visits to the endocrinologist, I found that my testosterone levels were very low, and prolactin levels were high. My sex drive was renewed in around three and a half to four months. Following, we began to be more intimate again, but no-where near to "the way it was"! Over the last year and a half, I consider myself lucky if we are intimate more than once a month! We have discussed the subject in every way, and I have even tried alternate types of pleasure with her such as toys, etc., etc. She has never tried any type of sexual device nor does she want to. To ad fuel to the "faux" fire so to speak, while making love she is completely "not into it at all" and even gets angered if I try anything new or even rub her breasts, etc.! What happened? What can we do to get our old sex life back?
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How can I get my wife to be interested in sex?
Question: I'm a 40-year-old male, married for 21 years and my wife and I have three daughters. My wife works the day shift and I work the third shift and we never see each other. I'm still very sexually active but my wife isn't and it's frustrating. My biggest problem is that when we made love in the past it was "slam bam thank you ma'am" and I was done. I've been able to get an erection OK, but maintaining it for very long is impossible which is a turn off for my spouse. She has gained weight over the years after having three children and four knee surgeries which prevented her from exercising. Whenever we see each other I try to be romantic, but we are missing something in our lives. I end up masturbating a lot for my satisfaction, and my spouse does nothing as far as I know. Is there help for me and or us?
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Why has my sexual desire decreased?
Question: I have been married 25 years and I don't have the sex drive as I used to. I prefer masturbation, but usually can't climax. I don't feel like I can ask my doctor for help. Do you have any suggestions?
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What option do we have for a three party?
Question: My husband and I have been fantasizing of bringing in a third party (female), in our lovemaking. What option do you have over that?
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Why doesn't intercourse last longer?
Question: I am a 26-year-old male in good shape. The problem that I'm experiencing is that intercourse only lasts a few minutes, usually two to three. I have been to a doctor and he said that physically there is nothing wrong with me. I am lost for a solution. My marriage is suffering and I am desperate for a solution. Can you help?
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Why isn't my girlfriend interested in sex?
Question: It seems that my girlfriend of 7 years isn't at all interested in sex. I feel that she has no passion, or desire for me in that way. When we talk about it, she tells me that it's not like that. She says that she does have desires for me. But, it seems the only time that she has these "desires" is Sunday nights when we go to bed around midnight. She also tells me that I need to give her time. Is 7 years not enough? We live & work together. We have lived together for 3 years. I'm starting to lose my interest in sex with her greatly. When it comes to foreplay, it's pretty much me doing it all. I love her very much. I feel that I have been very fair and understanding. We actually discuss this, but sometimes it turns into an argument. How can I get her to start opening up to me sexually? I don't want to cheat on her. But, masturbation can only take me so far. Any ideas?
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How can I get my wife to make quality time for me?
Question: I really am at my wits end. I truly love my wife, but she refuses to make quality time for me. There is an interest that I could pursue in someone else, but choose not to do so. Please help me to ignite the fires that used to burn all night long.
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