Answer: This relationship sounds like its suffering from a lack of intimacy. Is there a commitment here? If not, why not? I hear evidence of mutual annoyance, frustration, arguments, fear of rejection, thoughts of an affair, and resentment. Not a good breeding ground for good sex. I suggest you both run, not walk, to the office of a licensed professional experienced in treating intimacy issues and get some expert advice.

Intimacy Q & A: Communication Issues