Answer: Why does your wife "refuse to make quality time for you?" Are you making quality time for her? These are the key questions. What is she angry about? When did this problem start? Pursuing someone else will be the end of your relationship. The good news is that the "fires used to burn all night" which tells me there is a hope that you can rekindle the flames. It's time for some honest communication - that means you need to be prepared to HEAR what she has to say. I suggest you use the Stop, Look, Listen LoveTool and tell her that you'd like to understand why the two of you are choosing to spend less quality time together. Read chapter 16 "Sex is Easy, Intimacy is Difficult" in my book, Extraordinary Sex Now. It will give you lots of suggestions.

Intimacy Q & A: Communication Issues